A Cuddle Buddy
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Cuddling.
I saw a video on Facebook (the link is below) which shows that cuddling has become a profession. In this video a married woman paid $80 an hour for a professional cuddler as she and her husband were often away from each other. The criticism from the comments included remarks like, “She’s too needy” “Her husband must be cheating that's why he is ok with this.” “Their marriage is false.” Although I have several subjects I could put my two cents on I decided it was more important to discuss the importance of human touch and the importance of recognizing an individuals needs.
So, Why are people afraid to admit their need for human touch?
Here are only a couple of my thoughts:
One, we’ve been conditioned to deny our flesh and it’s needs. Many are taught to discipline the flesh; to have the flesh come into obedience rather than expression. There are ideas which insinuate the desires of our physical bodies are evil as they lead to sexual promiscuity or over-indulgences.
As a healer I see the needs of the physical body. There are layers which make us human beings. The physical body is one of those layers. The physical body is the last receiver of messages. It’s effected by the other layers and really has no choice but to fall subject. The physical body can be unappreciated and objectified. Literally the physical body
can be the slave getting it’s needs denied. People can oversex the physical body and the physical body although physically present during 'sex' may not even be getting its needs met.
Which leads to the second point, human touch is over sexualized. Sexuality is a part of our core essence. It’s very important. It hold within its chambers our creativity, prosperity, connectedness, creation....I can go into more detail about that in another blog. Sexuality and a sexualized society are two different spectrums.
Sexualization is where the physical body is a slave to the mind and there is disharmony between the two. It has nothing to do with the needs of the physical body and everything to do with the minds ideals. These ideals often enough are disconnected from the needs of the body. Someone can be a highly sexed individual but their physical body’s needs may be unfulfilled so they have more sex thinking it’s the cure yet it’s not.
People have been searching for what the
physical body needs through sexualization.
Studies have been proving to us for years what the physical body needs. Good nutrition according to what your body needs - some determine this through blood type, physical activity/exercise, sex (where it is involved not objectified) and touch to name a few. Sex and touch are not the same thing but many people group them together. Often our need for physical touch goes unfulfilled because there is a misunderstanding that physical touch is a couple with sex. If a person says, “ I need physical touch.” Many interpret that to mean, “I need sex.” Sometimes both these needs can be fulfilled together but they are separate needs.
In a study conducted regarding memory when people were asked to describe the person who walked pass them many people could only remember one or two things about the person if that. However, if the person had touched them they could remember more at least 4 details about the person. Physical touch is very important.
- Inspires positive thinking
- Reduces cortisol (for those blood type A’s)
- Expands trust
- Reduce social anxiety and stress
- Boost immune system
- Lowers blood pressure
- May help avoid colds and flu
- Helps improve heart health
- Gives life (touch can heal)
The physical body desires love and respect. Kuddos to recognizing self needs and fulfilling those needs. Some would starve before they accepted and loved themselves enough to say, “My needs are important and It’s ok to have needs! I need to be touched!”
Check this out: https://www.facebook.com/ExtremeLoveShow/videos/315958482495403/
Before we judge we should we evaluate and validate our own needs.
I have more to discuss on this subject but I will let this digest.
~Angela
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