Day 3 - June 17, 2009

Day 3: Love is not selfish

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor.

—Romans 12:10

TODAY’S DARE

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”

I broke my husband's laptop in a fight. Although people could justify my reasoning for being angry, I am ashamed I lost control. For the past year, every time I was hurt by something dealing with the computer I would think I just wanted to break it to rid myself of the pain. Random thought, right? This is an example of how thoughts manifest.

In the intense fights we started having the last month, I would tell him I was going to take his computer. Then one day I grabbed the laptop and ran for the door. On his laptop was his life. All of his game projects (for game design), the books he has been writing, pictures, music, research...

This night I found out he bought a calling card to talk to someone, he told me he had cut off, for me, two weeks prior. I was fuming, not only did we pay for the calling card, it still counted toward our minutes. The laptop in my mind was a good price to pay for ruining our marriage. My family was and is my life. I didn't care about anything but getting rid of the tool. And I did it. I am very ashamed....

For this dare I went to laptop shop and they recovered his hard drive. They put it in a casing so that he could plug it into any computer with a USB to recover his files. I had my oldest son give it to him because I upset my son when he found out I broke his Dad's laptop.

When my husband got it, he didn't say anything. This night I was full of joy. I knew I had shown unselfish love. I didn't need him to respond. It was a miracle to me he could even have his hard drive. I thanked God and thanked God. My son saw me praying it could be fixed before we left for the shop, while riding in the car from the laptop shop my oldest son says, "Mom, God really does listen to us." I felt much joy.