Day 15 - June 29, 2009

Day 15: Love is honorable

Live with your wives in an understanding way . . . and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.

—1 Peter 3:7

TODAY’S DARE

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

I like the books definition of what honor means,

" To honor someone means to give them respect and high esteem, to treat them as being special and of great worth, When you speak to them, you keep your language clean and understandable. You are courteous and polite. When they speak to you, you take them seriously, giving their words weight and significance. When they ask you to do something, you accommodate them if at all possible, simply out of respect for who they are."

To show Steve honor and respect, I did something I don't normally do. It wasn't until I did it, did I realize it was showing him I honor and respect him. Steven asked me to meet him at his job to give him paperwork he needed. He asked I leave at a certain time to meet him.

Well, I left 10 mins after that time then realizing I forgot the paper he needed. He sent me a text telling me he was at the place we were meeting. I felt awful, I had just left and was 20mins away. My normal thoughts would be to tell him I was on my way and not disclose I was late for fear of making him upset. When I got there I would tell him how difficult the kids were, etc.

As I played this scenario in my head (which I had done many times) I realized I need to take responsibility for prioritizing my time to be able to make commitments. Honoring my husband by being on time because I know it's what he needs of me. Even if my children are difficult, which my tardiness was more due to being on the phone though they were difficult as I was trying to run for the door. Even still, I need to allow myself time for those difficulties.

I, at first, sent a text - OMW (on my way). Then I sent another, "I am very sorry I am running late. I know this does not show you I respect you. I am very sorry." After I sent the text I realized being late did not show him honor nor respect, but owning up to what I had done, not giving him excuses and deceiving him by having him think I was closer than I was. That showed I honored and respected him. If I did not feel that way toward him, which I hadn't in the past, the same scenario would have been just fine for me.