Day 1 - June 15, 2009
For those who have not heard of the Love Dare which this video:
This dare was trying. My husband told me basically everything romantic he had ever done for me he did not believe in, which caused him to begin to die. He was happy he could tell the truth about how had been feeling about our marriage. He did not want to mean to me or our children, but he knew if he continued in our marriage he would become a worse person. He told me if I cared for him at all I would let him go.
Throughout the time he talked I just sat there. I realized how much I didn't really listen to my husband. I realized how many times I would have cut him off to interject or get clarity. It was hard for me to sit there with no emotion, just to listen.
I prayed the tears would not flood my face as he told me how miserable he had been in our marriage. How he could never be himself. I prayed. He did not know how to take my silence. He commented, "I might as well be talking to the wall if you aren't going to say anything."
Today was hurtful, but God helped me endure until I could get somewhere I could cry.
Day 1: Love is patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
—Ephesians 4:2 NIV
TODAY’S DARE
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.
This dare was trying. My husband told me basically everything romantic he had ever done for me he did not believe in, which caused him to begin to die. He was happy he could tell the truth about how had been feeling about our marriage. He did not want to mean to me or our children, but he knew if he continued in our marriage he would become a worse person. He told me if I cared for him at all I would let him go.
Throughout the time he talked I just sat there. I realized how much I didn't really listen to my husband. I realized how many times I would have cut him off to interject or get clarity. It was hard for me to sit there with no emotion, just to listen.
I prayed the tears would not flood my face as he told me how miserable he had been in our marriage. How he could never be himself. I prayed. He did not know how to take my silence. He commented, "I might as well be talking to the wall if you aren't going to say anything."
Today was hurtful, but God helped me endure until I could get somewhere I could cry.
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